FAMILY COUNSELLING AND THERAPY IS VERY NEW IN OUR CULTURALLY AGE-OLD WORLD RENOWNED AND POPULAR AFRICAN EXTENDED FAMILY SYSTEM SO MUCH THAT MY EFFORTS TO INTRODUCE IT IN OUR PARISHES, DIOCESES AAAND TOWNS IS HAVING SERIOUS TEETHING PROBLEMS ....SO I TOOK UP THE CHALLENGE TO PLEAD WITH THE FIRST FEMALE GOVERNOR OF ENUGU STATE WHERE I AM BASED TO USE TELEVISION ONLINE OUTREACH AS A FIRST STEP AND THEN OUR WOMEN ANNUAL AUGUST MEETINGS AND THE REAL FULCRUM FOR MAXIMUM OUTREACH TO ALL THE CRANNIES OF IGBOLAND
The Following ORIGINAL Script Predates All Others Before 2016 Ones
BRIEFS FOR HER EXCELLENCY THE FIRST FEMALE DEPUTY GOVERNOR OFENUGU STATE GOVERNMENT
The Following ORIGINAL Script Predates All Others Before 2016 Ones
THIS SCRIPT IS AS OLD AS SIX YEARS BUT NEGLECTED BY FOLLOWING
MANAGERS
ESBS FAMILY
COUNSELLING COLLEGE
On
AIR and On LINE Tutorials for Mature Students
PREAMBLE:
Thanks to the
inventors of Computers and the Internet, ICT can now be used to train a variety
of professionals right there in the comfort of their homes for a minimal fee
that can be paid to every broadcasting station on line. All we need do is draw
up an attractive time table for would-be FAMILY COUNSELLORS who have the
interest to guide their children and others in making the best decisions on
marriage and family life! They can subscribe for ON AIR tutorials of three
hours a week spread out to cater for the convenience of both their teachers and
staff of ESBS.
GENERAL INTRODUCTION:
Many parents are
ill-prepared to groom their offspring on the roles and duties of responsible
parenthood. They were not tutored on how best to rear the fruits of
love-making. Therefore, they rear another generation of ill-equipped fathers
and mothers. Whereas reproductive skills are innate in Homo sapiens, proper
attitudes towards the basics of family engineering are not.
One does not go
to school to study how to fall in and out of love. One does not learn how to
copulate. However, one must imbibe the right perceptions of the objectives of the
family institution to ensure a healthy, successful and happy married life!
These facts bring to our consciousness the remote causes of the unhappy
marriages, high rates of divorces and separations globally.
In our
traditional societies in which the African extended family system remains the
basic unit, marriages are usually arranged by elders in each concerned family
unit. The assumption is that love between the partners comes after marriage and
more thought is given to the socioeconomic advantages accruing to the larger
family from the marriage than romantic love.
By contrast,
in modern societies that have accepted western lifestyles where Christianity
and nuclear family predominates, educated young adults now opt to choose their
own mates. It is assumed that love determines proper marriage, and less thought
is normally given to the socioeconomic aspects of the match. However, this has
increased divorce rates due to misconceptions of the traditional values
attached to the pre-literate marriage customs that ensured the longevity of marriages.
In today’s world, adolescents rarely know what
marriage is all about before venturing into it. Unprepared and inexperienced,
they dabble in and out as often as the laws allow them to! To stem the tide,
parents, pastors and counsellors need to re-educate the youth if we hope to
reverse the trend of increases in divorce rate globally. What then, are the
remote and immediate causes of divorces?
They are:
·
Social
prejudices inculcated in the child through wrong child-rearing customs;
·
Emotional
immaturity caused by incomplete resolution of the developmental tasks of
adolescence;
·
Warped
attitudes or negative perceptions picked from print and electronic media; and
finally,
·
Myopic
expectations from the marriage institution that eventually lead to infidelity
or adultery.
·
Above paragraphs
are unedited excerpts from the current encyclopaedic textbook on marriage; “PSYCHOMETRIC
FAMILY COUNSELLING”; Danmbaezue et al.(2007)
Experts in both guidance counselling, family life
education and family therapy will be sourced by the management of ENUGU STATE BROADCASTING SERVICE, (abbrev. ESBS) assisted by
bona-fide members of HAPPY FAMILY NETWORK INTERNATIONAL, (abbrev. HAFANI) a CBO
made up of the professionals in medicine, psychology, sociology, religion and
other relevant fields of the humanities.
The effective use
of a variety of counselling/therapeutic methods with the relevant standardised
psychological tests as described in the manuals of the six developed by the
interdisciplinary therapeutic consortium of HAFANI demands competency in
non-parametric statistics. This involves accurate procedures regarding their
administration, scoring, evaluation, analysis and application in
existential/client-centred therapeutics dealing with individuals or groups.
This is where
summer holiday-camps organised by ESBS/HAFANI officials will be required to
train the fee-paying beneficiaries of the programme. The income is dependent on
the ingenuity, efficient and effective presentations ON AIR by staff of the
broadcasting house! The top management of ESBS will take care of this
adequately and control the funds.
METHODOLOGY:
1. ON
THE AIR tutorial lectures will be handled by seasoned HAFANI social scientists
and respected elderly parents picked by the staff of ESBS.
2. Dialogue
sessions whereby a select group of adolescents and prospective couples will
interact LIVE with the tutors will be aired on a weekly basis.
3. Soap
operas or Drama sketches can be shown on weekends to provide would be
participants the benefits of the ESBS family counselling programme.
4. Use
of micro-diagnostic tests in skilled counselling and therapeutic settings will
be taught ON AIR and the practical reserved for ESBS summer camps.
5. Practical
sessions will be on pay-and-participate basis during the summer holiday periods
where counselees meet with the counsellors.
RESOURCE BOOKS:
There are a
number of books already written on the subject that are on the Internet, as
well as those by Nigerian professionals in areas of their specialisation in
Family Life Sciences. These will be vetted by the Senior Management of ESBS.
Any well- informed father or mother practising marriage and family life
successfully is welcome to participate in this people-oriented programme
designed for our youths!
TUITION FEES/MODALITIES OF PAYMENT:
This is primarily
the administrative duty of the Top Management Executives of the media house who
can assess and evaluate what is ideal to pay for running costs, remunerations
to invited tutorial staff and the hosting of the annual holidays camp for
practicum.
This write-up
definitely is only a proposal for helmsmen at the TV subunit of ESBS. You are
free to re-write and format it to meet the requirements of your employers, but
be aware that unless the income this FAMILY COUNSELLING TUTORIAL generates is
adequate and profitable, top managers might cancel it.
On the other
hand, if you organise this innovative programme successfully, besides raking in
millions in terms of quarterly turnover for your employers, you would have made
history. All tertiary institutions will come running to ESBS to learn how you
pulled off this epoch-making educational wonder. It is definitely ingenious!
Keep the flag
flying high forESBS, the only truly State Government Television.
………………………………………………………….……………………………..
Dr Jideofo Kenechukwu Danmbaezue, D.Sc
Professor of Psychometrics/Family Therapy
CONSULTANT
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST &
EXISTENTIAL
FAMILY THERAPIST
Tel: 0803-9097614
or 0805-1764999 @ 13:58 :17HRS GMT 03/10/2011 )
Email: saintkenez@yahoo.co.uk Website: www.happyfamilynetwork.hpage.com
ESBS FAMILY COUNSELLING PROGRAMME
SPONSORSHIP AND MARKETING RIGHTS FOR COMPANIES
The Marketing Manager,
................................................................
................................................................
Sir,
YOU CAN MARKET YOUR PRODUCTS AND SERVICES ON AIR OR ON
LINE
You can partner
with us and market your super friendly products on both our air waves and
television broadcasts as we run the weekly ESBS family counselling lectures, on
line interactive sessions and summer/holiday camp programmes.
Review the
attached quarterly brochure in detail and decide how many times you want to use
our air time to get more customers patronise you. It is a fabulous offer for
your enterprising organisation that is people-friendly. That is why we are
calling you to exploit the abundant opportunities it offers to millions of
Nigerians.
There is the
possibility of restricting our ON AIR
students to only phonecalls made with your lines during our interactive
lecture series. There is also another opening; asking them to only use your
products and services for all their e-mails to us.
The choice is
yours also to decorate a 50 x 100 metre ‘love-garden’ space, with your
billboard advertorials, which we will use weekly for various grades of couples
to spend quality time as part of our Group Therapeutic Sessions. It provides
them the opportunity to sort out their psychosocial marital relationships and
other child-rearing challenges as they interact with partners having similar
social problems.
We will organise monthly
all-night out party sessions where you can increase sales turnover by awarding
prizes for couples that patronise/use your services the most:
1. ENGAGED
COUPLES NIGHT
2. BRONZE
JUBILEE COUPLES NIGHT
3. SILVER
JUBILEE COUPLES NIGHT
4. GOLDEN
JUBILEE COUPLES NIGHT
5. ANNUAL
VALENTINE/VALENTINOS NIGHT
You can opt to sponsor
annually or quarterly at the following moderate fees:
·
Annually i.e 4 quarters, 3 months x 4, @ N3.5 million only
·
Quarterly i.e 3 months you choose in a year @ N1.5 million.
Please contact our
Directors of Programmes, Finance or Marketing for details.
...........................................................................
Mr. Chinwe Onuorah
Managing Director, ESBS TV-RADIO, Enugu .
THEN HERE IS MY SOLO UPDATE OF JULY TO OCTOBER 2016
BRIEFS FOR HER EXCELLENCY THE FIRST FEMALE DEPUTY GOVERNOR OF
HERE IS A PROPOSAL YOU WILL LOVE AS YOUR PET PROJECT AND A LEGACY YOU
SHALL BE REMEMBERED FOR AGES TO COME
Compiled by
DR KENEZ, UCHENNA ODOH & YOUR
ADMIRERS @ NTA ENUGU
PROLOGUE; IMPORTED RELIGIONS BROUGHT IGBOS
DECLINE IN SOCIAL MORALITY AND ONLY A PROGRAMMED RE-EDUCATION IN FAMILY VALUES
CAN RECTIFY IT. YOU ARE IN THE BEST POSITION AND SOCIOPOLITICAL STATUS TO DO
SO!
The genesis of immorality in Igbo land was the assimilation of
westernisation. The desecration of our pre-colonial high moral values started
with the arrival of the first white missionaries in West Africa . What the natives called “NSO-ANI” was re-branded
FORGIVEABLE SINS and so watered down the sanctity of religious values in South-East , Nigeria a.k.a. Biafra .
Its partner, WESTERN EDUCATION neatly completed the ‘coup de grace’ as
the foreign concepts and social values of the colonialists destroyed the social
ethics of the natives and rendered our pristine mores and norms ineffective.
In some communities; “aping the white man’s dress code and mannerisms
became fashionable and ignoring the customs and traditions of the community was
seen as the criterion of being EDUCATED and MORE CIVILISED than the illiterate
folks in our villages who religiously obeyed the traditional mores and norms!
---DR JIDEOFO KENECHUKWU DANMBAEZUE, @ 30/06/201304:14:32 HRS GMT.
---DR JIDEOFO KENECHUKWU DANMBAEZUE, @ 30/06/2013
HERE IS THE MAIN TEXT BOOK FOR ALL OUR PROGRAMME DIRECTORS &TRAINEE
COUNSELLORS
THE THREE MAIN AUTHORS / RESEARCHERS OF
PSYCHOMETRIC FAMILY COUNSELLING
ARE
·
Dr Jideofo Kenechukwu Danmbaezue
· Mrs. Alice Nwakego Chineme
Mbaezue
· Sir Andrew Okoliukwu Okeukwu
And
it is an original 25-year research work done by
HAPPY
FAMILY NETWORK INTERNATIONAL
THE FAMILY WELFARE DIVISION OF
KENEZ INTERNATIONAL HUMANITARIAN ORGANISATIONS LINKAGE
An inter-ethnic NGO for creating good
neighbourhood parenting units in urban cities for the development of healthy,
successful and happy families in all countries of the world.
DECLINE
IN SOCIAL ETHICS IS THE CRUX OF MORAL DEPRAVITY WHICH YOU MUST TACKLE HEAD-ON
TO CHANGE THE STATUS QUO
Double-faced Christians and Muslims now abound everywhere; they worship Satan
at night and come to church/mosque on Fridays/Sundays! This lifestyle has
eroded the credentials of our forebears! There is now, an urgent need to redeem
our children from these nefarious practices! We must revert to the legacies of
our renowned grandfathers, improve on it and bequeath the next generation a
better religious legacy than we had! If you are concerned that our
children need fresh religious air that suits this global village and that
posterity deserves a better lifestyle devoid of wearing masks of deceit,
pretences, subterfuges, ‘holier-than-thou’ attitudes, then join us in the
sanitation exercise. Your offspring will remain forever grateful that a select
group of enlightened ‘Homo sapiens sapientis’ took the bull by the horns to
avert the perilous moral decadence that is steadily turning all of us into
unabashed hypocrites, unrepentant fanatics and deluded mystics. Our adolescents
are the worst hit. You are welcome!
https://plus.google.com/100752842609304318747/videos/p/pub?pid=6134813415295938914&oid=100752842609304318747 Read the two commentaries very well.
THE PROGRAMMES DIVISION OF NTA ENUGU NETWORK OUR CENTRE AIDED BY DR J. K.
DANMBAEZUE AND HIS TEN MAN FAMILY COUNSELLING TEAM WILL PARTNER WITH YOU
LECTURE ONE
Intro: MOST HUMANS
GET MARRIAGE WRONG BY PRESUMPTION
RELEVANCE OF IGBA NKWU IN IGBO LAND
Its communal sacredness, religious meaning and sociological
importance
“Igba Nkwu”, which literally connotes ‘the surplus provision of palm
wine’ has both a religious and a legal denotation among the Igbo people of Biafra . “Igba Nkwu” is a communal rite of passage
that confers marital vows and legal rights to a couple. It is a sacred
celebration of the union of two kindreds by the marriage of their daughter to a
new son-in-law. It is a religious ceremony whereby the father of the bride
performs a priestly function of publicly blessing his new son-in-law and
daughter by pouring libations to his ancestors for the success of having given
birth to and nurtured a fully grown woman. He prays for fruitfulness of the
womb, proper performance of wifely duties to her husband and success in a happy
marriage. It is a sociological landmark
that a bona-fide daughter of the community has successfully passed through all
the developmental stages of adolescence and is today graduating from “whose
daughter is she?” to “whose wife is
she?” Finally, it is a feast wherein the groom sumptuously entertains members
of his bride’s kindred with tasty wine in appreciation of successfully training
his wife! These are only some of the socio-psycho-religious meanings of “Igba
Nkwu” in Igbo land as percieved by a son-of-the soil with western education.
The sages of each locality will surely provide more metaphysical
interpretations! --- Danmbaezue J. K.(1981- 2011)
LECTURE TWO
Prelim Pages; MANY PARENTS DO NOT GROOM
THEIR OFFSPRING
THE ROLES AND DUTIES OF RESPONSIBLE PARENTHOOD.
Many parents are ill-prepared to groom their offspring on the roles
and duties of responsible parenthood. They were not tutored on how best to rear
the fruits of love-making. Therefore, they rear another generation of
ill-equipped fathers and mothers. Whereas reproductive skills are innate in
Homo sapiens, proper attitudes towards the basics of family engineering are
not. One does not go to school to study
how to fall in and out of love. One does
not learn how to copulate. However, one
must imbibe the right perceptions of the objectives of family institution to
ensure a healthy, successful and happy married life! Unprepared and
inexperienced, they dabble in and out as often as the laws allow them to! To
stem the tide, parents, pastors and counsellors need to educate the youth if we
hope to reverse the trend of increases in divorce rate globally. What then, are
the remote and immediate causes of divorces? They are: social prejudices
inculcated in the child through wrong child-rearing customs; emotional
immaturity caused by incomplete resolution of the developmental tasks of adolescenc; warped attitudes or negative perceptions picked from print and
electronic media; and finally, myopic expectations from the marriage
institution that eventually lead to infidelity or adultery. ----- From THE PREFACE OF HAFANI TEXTBOOK
LECTURE THREE
WHAT IS
A FAMILY IN IGBO LAND ?
THE BASIC
QUALIFICATIONS OF A HUSBAND a.k.a DIBIA-ULO
The answer is simple. “Ezi-na-ulo”, is what the Igbo call it.
Literally, it simply means “members of a compound and a house”. Therefore, a
family comprises those members who share their lives together within a
household located in a compound.
Naturally, there is a father plus a mother of the home and a compound in
which they live in and happily interact. The father is the king of his domain.
He has married a wife or wives and has subsequently produced children. He takes
responsibility for all their needs:
- Shelter, Food and Clothing
- Hospital Bills and School Fees
- Defence and Transport
- Loans and Investment
In short, our people are right by calling him “DIBIA-ULO” - the doctor
who diagnoses and treats all the problems in his house. To be a ‘dibia’-
implies a protracted training as apprentice, internship and housemanship before
freedom to start one’s own medical practice. A teenager or an adolescent who
has not endured the long tutelage under his father can never be a good
dibia-ulo.
TO BE A DIBIA-ULO IN A TRADITIONAL IGBO SETTING COMPRISES:
A. A responsible man that
builds a home,
B. At least a man and a woman
with their children,
C. The wife or wives are
dependent on him,
D. He is the mechanic, the
plumber and doctor of the family,
E. He shoulders the good, the
bad and the ugly in his home,
F. His failure to take good
care of the wife spells divorce and a broken home.
In Igbo land, marriage is a village affair or in the least, a
kindred affair, whereby it is not only the bridegroom that is the husband of
the new bride but all his kinsmen and women. The woman is called: ‘our wife’ by
the people. Therefore to marry in our culture entails pre-marital
investigations or research into the family backgrounds of both bride and groom.
This is the unique aspect of traditional marriage that benefits the couple. It
is the most advantageous aspect of Igbo wisdom. Whereas Western societies
resort to professional marriage counsellors and family therapists, we have this
pre-marital counselling done for the couple before their formal wedding. It has
so many advantages:
- It excludes genetic diseases if properly conducted,
- It pre-empts anti-social behavioural traits in the offspring,
- It protects most of the community’s religious taboos,
- It enforces traditional norms and mores,
- It protects the newly married bride from inordinate jealousies,
and finally
- It publicises that one is no more a bachelor or a spinster.
In our culture, the first is the most important parameter for the
marriage to get the blessings of parents and members of the African extended
family system. One really wonders how our ancestors were able to fathom the
need for this PRE-MARITAL GENETICAL COUNSELLING long before the arrival of the
first white man!
LECTURE FOUR
CALL
FOR FOUNDATION MEMBERS OF FAMILY LIFE COLLEGE
Every individual nature is part of the cosmos. To live
virtuously means to live in accord with one's nature, to live according to the
natural and eternal laws the designer of the universe intended by employing
truth and right reason in all we do. Because passion and emotion are considered
irrational movements of the soul, the wise individual seeks to eradicate the
passions and consciously embrace the rational life. “True law is right reason
in agreement with Nature; it is of universal application, unchanging and
everlasting; it summons to duty by its commands and averts from wrongdoing by
its prohibitions. . . . There will not be different laws at different
countries or communities, or different laws now and in the future, but one
eternal and unchangeable law will be valid for all nations and for all times.”
The laws governing all living things; birth, growth, respiration, movement,
nutrition, excretion, reproduction and finally death hold sway in every place
on planet earth under normal temperature and pressure. Humans have the same
anatomy and physiology despite our differing languages, child-rearing
practices, skin colour, racial differences and social statuses. We are the
offspring of the Almighty Creator of the macrocosms and microcosms we share.
Our survival in our variety of physical environment follows the same laws. No
man is an island. We need each other!
We all contend that natural laws are sacrosanct for
they were made by the Almighty Architect and Engineer who created every being
on planet; EARTH. They are divine and eternal; because they are universal and
are no respecters of places and times of birth, parentage, race, educational
level or religion! There are so many self-evident examples; the movement of the
sun and moon regulate the hours of day, night, weeks, months and years; so also
do gravity, temperature, pressure, emotion, motivation, conception, pregnancy,
labour and birth regulate family life. If anyone disagrees, let him provide
evidence to the contrary. The founders of FAMILY LIFE COLLEGE, therefore, posit
that human slavery, in whatever form it is used to deny any Homo sapiens and
others their fundamental human rights, was/is and will forever remain illegal!
Caste systems must be abrogated in civil and religious circles all over the
world to arrive at;
ONE ALMIGHTY CREATOR, ONE CREATED
UNIVERSE, ONE HUMAN FAMILY, ONE GLOBAL FAITH
AND ONE MODE
OF WORSHIP; IS OUR CREED, SERVICE
TO HUMANITY INTERNATIONALLY, IS THE LIFESTYLE OF ALL MEMBERS, LOYALTY TO THE
ABSOLUTE TRUTH, IN EVERY THOUGHT, WORD OR DEED IS OUR ETHICS & OBEDIENCE TO NATURAL & ETERNAL LAWS
OF THE CREATOR, IS OUR GOSPEL.
LECTURE FIVE
POLYGAMY IS NATURAL, MONOGAMY
MUST BE LEARNT
Adultery and divorce were/are new lexicons in pre-literate Igbo
communities. Let us not deceive ourselves by acclaiming that Monogamy as
legislated by foreign religious bodies is natural. The easy and acceptable
number of wives a traditional husband had/have in most societies all over the
globe is only determined by his industry backed by his ability to feed and
cater for every member of his househeld effectively and efficiently. There was
no need for a man to be unfaithful to his wife or wives as all it would cost
was working harder to earn the respect of his large family. Today, the imported
monogamy that is rarely kept has brought in so many scandals and sinful
lifestyles that corrupt our youth. This Family Counselling Organisation does
not condemn Polygamy nor does it praise Monogamy. If you are a millionaire and
can marry many ladies, go ahead! If the cap fits; wear it; but ensure the
health, succes and happiness of all! Let us see what a foreign lady found out
about INFIDELITY and ADULTERY!
RESEARCH BY A WOMAN ON INFIDELITY
Downloaded from the
Internet in 2009 for the book: PSYCHOMETRIC FAMILY COUNSELLING
The
only place where you'll find out the REAL reason women are cheating as much as
men
MICHELLE LANGLEY
"After
researching women's sexuality for more than ten years, I can honestly say that
most of our societal beliefs about females are grossly distorted and many are
completely erroneous." ---------
…………………….says Michelle Langley, Author of Women's Infidelity
WOMEN'S
RELATIONSHIPS TODAY FOLLOW A PREDICTABLE PATTERN:
- They push men for
commitment
- They get what they want
- They lose interest in sex
- They become attracted to
someone else
- They start cheating
- They become angry and
resentful
- They begin telling their
partners that they need time apart
- They
blame their partners for their behaviour...and eventually, after making
themselves and everyone around them miserable for an indefinite, but
usually, long period of time, they end their relationships or marriages.
THE YOUNG SHALL GROW IS ETERNALLY
THE DEFINITE TRUTH OF OUR COUNSELLIG, SO WE MUST PREPARE THEM TO PLAY THE RIGHT
ROLES OF WOMANHOOD EARLY IN LIFE
Also visit our website @: www.happyfamilynetwork.hpage.com
ONLINE FAMILY
COUNSELLING COLLEGE
On
AIR and On LINE Tutorials for Mature Students
PREAMBLE:
Thanks to the inventors of Computers and
the Internet, ICT can now be used to train a variety of professionals right
there in the comfort of their homes for a minimal fee that can be paid to every
broadcasting station on line. All we need do is draw up an attractive time
table for would-be FAMILY COUNSELLORS who have the interest to guide their
children and others in making the best decisions on marriage and family life!
They can subscribe for ON AIR tutorials of three hours a week spread out to
cater for the convenience of both their teachers and staff of NTA.
GENERAL
INTRODUCTION:
Many parents are ill-prepared to groom
their offspring on the roles and duties of responsible parenthood. They were
not tutored on how best to rear the fruits of love-making. Therefore, they rear
another generation of ill-equipped fathers and mothers. Whereas reproductive
skills are innate in Homo sapiens, proper attitudes towards the basics of
family engineering are not.
One does not go to school to study how to
fall in and out of love. One does not learn how to copulate. However, one must
imbibe the right perceptions of the objectives of the family institution to
ensure a healthy, successful and happy married life! These facts bring to our consciousness
the remote causes of the unhappy marriages, high rates of divorces and
separations globally.
In our traditional societies in which
the African extended family system remains the basic unit, marriages are
usually arranged by elders in each concerned family unit. The assumption is
that love between the partners comes after marriage and more thought is given
to the socioeconomic advantages accruing to the larger family from the marriage
than romantic love. By contrast, in modern societies that have accepted western lifestyles where Christianity and nuclear family predominates, educated young adults now opt to choose their own mates. It is assumed that love determines proper marriage, and less thought is normally given to the socioeconomic aspects of the match. However, this has increased divorce rates due to misconceptions of the traditional values attached to the pre-literate marriage customs that ensured the longevity of marriages.
In
today’s world, adolescents rarely know what marriage is all about before
venturing into it. Unprepared and inexperienced, they dabble in and out as
often as the laws allow them to! To stem the tide, parents, pastors and
counsellors need to re-educate the youth if we hope to reverse the trend of
increases in divorce rate globally. What then, are the remote and immediate
causes of divorces?
They
are:
·
Social prejudices
inculcated in the child through wrong child-rearing customs;
·
Emotional immaturity
caused by incomplete resolution of the developmental tasks of adolescence;
·
Warped attitudes or
negative perceptions picked from print and electronic media; and finally,
·
Myopic expectations from
the marriage institution that eventually lead to infidelity or adultery.
Above paragraphs are unedited excerpts
from the current encyclopaedic textbook on marriage; “PSYCHOMETRIC FAMILY
COUNSELLING”; …… Danmbaezue et
al.(2007)
Experts
in both guidance counselling, family life education and family therapy will be
sourced by the management of NTA ENUGU STATE assisted by bona-fide
members of HAPPY FAMILY NETWORK INTERNATIONAL, (abbrev. HAFANI) a CBO made up
of the professionals in medicine, psychology, sociology, religion and other
relevant fields of the humanities.
The effective use of a variety of
counselling/therapeutic methods with the relevant standardised psychological
tests as described in the manuals of the six developed by the interdisciplinary
therapeutic consortium of HAFANI demands competency in non-parametric
statistics. This involves accurate procedures regarding their administration,
scoring, evaluation, analysis and application in existential/client-centred
therapeutics dealing with individuals or groups.
This is where summer holiday-camps
organised by officials will be required to train the fee-paying beneficiaries
of the programme. The income is dependent on the ingenuity, efficient and
effective presentations ON AIR by staff of the broadcasting house! The top
management of NTA will take care of this adequately and control the funds.
METHODOLOGY:
1. ON THE AIR tutorial
lectures will be handled by seasoned HAFANI social scientists and respected
elderly parents picked by the staff of NTA.
2. Dialogue sessions
whereby a select group of adolescents and prospective couples will interact
LIVE with the tutors will be aired on a weekly basis.
3. Soap operas or Drama
sketches can be shown on weekends to provide would be participants the benefits
of the NTA family counselling programme.
4. Use of micro-diagnostic
tests in skilled counselling and therapeutic settings will be taught ON AIR and
the practical reserved for NYA summer camps.
5. Practical sessions will
be on pay-and-participate basis during the summer holiday periods where
counselees meet with the counsellors.
RESOURCE
BOOKS:
There are a number of books already written
on the subject that are on the Internet, as well as those by Nigerian
professionals in areas of their specialisation in Family Life Sciences. These
will be vetted by the Senior Management of NTA. Any well- informed father or
mother practising marriage and family life successfully is welcome to
participate in this people-oriented programme designed for our youths!
TUITION
FEES/MODALITIES OF PAYMENT:
This is primarily the administrative duty
of the Top Management Executives of the media house who can assess and evaluate
what is ideal to pay for running costs, remunerations to invited tutorial staff
and the hosting of the annual holidays camp for practicum.
This write-up definitely is only a proposal
for helmsmen at the TV subunit of NTA. You are free to re-write and format it
to meet the requirements of your employers, but be aware that unless the income
this FAMILY COUNSELLING TUTORIAL generates is adequate and profitable, top
managers might cancel it.
On the other hand, if you organise this
innovative programme successfully, besides raking in millions in terms of
quarterly turnover for your employers, you would have made history. All
tertiary institutions will come running to NTA to learn how you pulled off this
epoch-making educational wonder. It is definitely ingenious! Keep the flag
flying high
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Dr
Jideofo Kenechukwu Danmbaezue, D.Sc.
Professor
of Psychometrics/Family Therapy
Email: saintkenez@yahoo.co.uk
Website: www.happyfamilynetwork.hpage.com
Representatives of FOUNDERS, SECRETARIES & CO-ORDINATORS
THIS ORIGINAL SCRIPT IS AS OLD AS SIX YEARS BUT NEGLECTED BY FOLLOWING
MANAGERS