PUBLIC ENLIGHTMENT PROGRAMMES BY HAPPY FAMILY NETWORK INTERNATIONAL,A COMMUNITY BASED / NON-GOVERNMENTALORGANISATION

FAMILY COUNSELLING AND THERAPY IS VERY NEW IN OUR CULTURALLY AGE-OLD WORLD RENOWNED AND POPULAR AFRICAN EXTENDED FAMILY SYSTEM SO MUCH THAT MY EFFORTS TO INTRODUCE IT IN OUR PARISHES, DIOCESES AAAND TOWNS IS HAVING SERIOUS TEETHING PROBLEMS ....SO I TOOK UP THE CHALLENGE TO PLEAD WITH THE FIRST FEMALE GOVERNOR OF ENUGU STATE WHERE I AM BASED TO USE TELEVISION ONLINE OUTREACH AS A FIRST STEP AND THEN OUR WOMEN ANNUAL AUGUST MEETINGS AND THE REAL FULCRUM FOR MAXIMUM OUTREACH TO ALL THE CRANNIES OF IGBOLAND

The Following ORIGINAL Script Predates All Others Before 2016 Ones

THIS SCRIPT IS AS OLD AS SIX YEARS BUT NEGLECTED BY FOLLOWING MANAGERS

ESBS FAMILY COUNSELLING COLLEGE

On AIR and On LINE Tutorials for Mature Students

PREAMBLE:

Thanks to the inventors of Computers and the Internet, ICT can now be used to train a variety of professionals right there in the comfort of their homes for a minimal fee that can be paid to every broadcasting station on line. All we need do is draw up an attractive time table for would-be FAMILY COUNSELLORS who have the interest to guide their children and others in making the best decisions on marriage and family life! They can subscribe for ON AIR tutorials of three hours a week spread out to cater for the convenience of both their teachers and staff of ESBS.

GENERAL INTRODUCTION:

Many parents are ill-prepared to groom their offspring on the roles and duties of responsible parenthood. They were not tutored on how best to rear the fruits of love-making. Therefore, they rear another generation of ill-equipped fathers and mothers. Whereas reproductive skills are innate in Homo sapiens, proper attitudes towards the basics of family engineering are not. 

One does not go to school to study how to fall in and out of love. One does not learn how to copulate. However, one must imbibe the right perceptions of the objectives of the family institution to ensure a healthy, successful and happy married life! These facts bring to our consciousness the remote causes of the unhappy marriages, high rates of divorces and separations globally.

In our traditional societies in which the African extended family system remains the basic unit, marriages are usually arranged by elders in each concerned family unit. The assumption is that love between the partners comes after marriage and more thought is given to the socioeconomic advantages accruing to the larger family from the marriage than romantic love.

By contrast, in modern societies that have accepted western lifestyles where Christianity and nuclear family predominates, educated young adults now opt to choose their own mates. It is assumed that love determines proper marriage, and less thought is normally given to the socioeconomic aspects of the match. However, this has increased divorce rates due to misconceptions of the traditional values attached to the pre-literate marriage customs that ensured the longevity of marriages.

In today’s world, adolescents rarely know what marriage is all about before venturing into it. Unprepared and inexperienced, they dabble in and out as often as the laws allow them to! To stem the tide, parents, pastors and counsellors need to re-educate the youth if we hope to reverse the trend of increases in divorce rate globally. What then, are the remote and immediate causes of divorces?

They are:

·        Social prejudices inculcated in the child through wrong child-rearing customs;

·        Emotional immaturity caused by incomplete resolution of the developmental tasks of adolescence;

·        Warped attitudes or negative perceptions picked from print and electronic media; and finally,

·        Myopic expectations from the marriage institution that eventually lead to infidelity or adultery.

·         

Above paragraphs are unedited excerpts from the current encyclopaedic textbook on marriage; “PSYCHOMETRIC FAMILY COUNSELLING”; Danmbaezue et al.(2007)

Experts in both guidance counselling, family life education and family therapy will be sourced by the management of ENUGU STATE BROADCASTING SERVICE, (abbrev. ESBS) assisted by bona-fide members of HAPPY FAMILY NETWORK INTERNATIONAL, (abbrev. HAFANI) a CBO made up of the professionals in medicine, psychology, sociology, religion and other relevant fields of the humanities.

The effective use of a variety of counselling/therapeutic methods with the relevant standardised psychological tests as described in the manuals of the six developed by the interdisciplinary therapeutic consortium of HAFANI demands competency in non-parametric statistics. This involves accurate procedures regarding their administration, scoring, evaluation, analysis and application in existential/client-centred therapeutics dealing with individuals or groups.

This is where summer holiday-camps organised by ESBS/HAFANI officials will be required to train the fee-paying beneficiaries of the programme. The income is dependent on the ingenuity, efficient and effective presentations ON AIR by staff of the broadcasting house! The top management of ESBS will take care of this adequately and control the funds.

METHODOLOGY:

1.  ON THE AIR tutorial lectures will be handled by seasoned HAFANI social scientists and respected elderly parents picked by the staff of ESBS.

2.  Dialogue sessions whereby a select group of adolescents and prospective couples will interact LIVE with the tutors will be aired on a weekly basis.

3.  Soap operas or Drama sketches can be shown on weekends to provide would be participants the benefits of the ESBS family counselling programme.

4.  Use of micro-diagnostic tests in skilled counselling and therapeutic settings will be taught ON AIR and the practical reserved for ESBS summer camps.

5.  Practical sessions will be on pay-and-participate basis during the summer holiday periods where counselees meet with the counsellors.

RESOURCE BOOKS:

There are a number of books already written on the subject that are on the Internet, as well as those by Nigerian professionals in areas of their specialisation in Family Life Sciences. These will be vetted by the Senior Management of ESBS. Any well- informed father or mother practising marriage and family life successfully is welcome to participate in this people-oriented programme designed for our youths!

TUITION FEES/MODALITIES OF PAYMENT:

This is primarily the administrative duty of the Top Management Executives of the media house who can assess and evaluate what is ideal to pay for running costs, remunerations to invited tutorial staff and the hosting of the annual holidays camp for practicum.

This write-up definitely is only a proposal for helmsmen at the TV subunit of ESBS. You are free to re-write and format it to meet the requirements of your employers, but be aware that unless the income this FAMILY COUNSELLING TUTORIAL generates is adequate and profitable, top managers might cancel it.

On the other hand, if you organise this innovative programme successfully, besides raking in millions in terms of quarterly turnover for your employers, you would have made history. All tertiary institutions will come running to ESBS to learn how you pulled off this epoch-making educational wonder. It is definitely ingenious!

Keep the flag flying high forESBS, the only truly State Government Television.

 

………………………………………………………….……………………………..

Dr Jideofo Kenechukwu Danmbaezue, D.Sc

Professor of Psychometrics/Family Therapy

CONSULTANT CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST &

EXISTENTIAL FAMILY THERAPIST

Tel: 0803-9097614 or 0805-1764999 @ 13:58:17HRS GMT 03/10/2011)

Email: saintkenez@yahoo.co.uk Website: www.happyfamilynetwork.hpage.com

 ESBS FAMILY COUNSELLING PROGRAMME

SPONSORSHIP AND MARKETING RIGHTS FOR COMPANIES

The Marketing Manager,

................................................................

................................................................

Sir,

YOU CAN MARKET YOUR PRODUCTS AND SERVICES ON AIR OR ON LINE

You can partner with us and market your super friendly products on both our air waves and television broadcasts as we run the weekly ESBS family counselling lectures, on line interactive sessions and summer/holiday camp programmes.

Review the attached quarterly brochure in detail and decide how many times you want to use our air time to get more customers patronise you. It is a fabulous offer for your enterprising organisation that is people-friendly. That is why we are calling you to exploit the abundant opportunities it offers to millions of Nigerians.

There is the possibility of restricting our ON AIR  students to only phonecalls made with your lines during our interactive lecture series. There is also another opening; asking them to only use your products and services for all their e-mails to us.

The choice is yours also to decorate a 50 x 100 metre ‘love-garden’ space, with your billboard advertorials, which we will use weekly for various grades of couples to spend quality time as part of our Group Therapeutic Sessions. It provides them the opportunity to sort out their psychosocial marital relationships and other child-rearing challenges as they interact with partners having similar social problems.

We will organise monthly all-night out party sessions where you can increase sales turnover by awarding prizes for couples that patronise/use your services the most:

1.  ENGAGED COUPLES NIGHT

2.  BRONZE JUBILEE COUPLES NIGHT

3.  SILVER JUBILEE COUPLES NIGHT

4.  GOLDEN JUBILEE COUPLES NIGHT

5.  ANNUAL VALENTINE/VALENTINOS NIGHT

You can opt to sponsor annually or quarterly at the following moderate fees:

·        Annually i.e 4 quarters, 3 months x 4, @  N3.5 million only

·        Quarterly i.e 3 months you choose in a year @ N1.5 million.

Please contact our Directors of Programmes, Finance or Marketing for details.

...........................................................................

Mr. Chinwe Onuorah

Managing Director, ESBS TV-RADIO, Enugu.

THEN HERE IS MY  SOLO UPDATE OF JULY TO OCTOBER 2016

BRIEFS FOR HER EXCELLENCY THE FIRST FEMALE DEPUTY GOVERNOR OF ENUGU STATE GOVERNMENT

HERE IS A PROPOSAL YOU WILL LOVE AS YOUR PET PROJECT AND A LEGACY YOU SHALL BE REMEMBERED FOR AGES TO COME

Compiled by

DR KENEZ, UCHENNA ODOH & YOUR ADMIRERS @ NTA ENUGU

PROLOGUE;              IMPORTED RELIGIONS BROUGHT IGBOS DECLINE IN SOCIAL MORALITY AND ONLY A PROGRAMMED RE-EDUCATION IN FAMILY VALUES CAN RECTIFY IT. YOU ARE IN THE BEST POSITION AND SOCIOPOLITICAL STATUS TO DO SO!

The genesis of immorality in Igbo land was the assimilation of westernisation. The desecration of our pre-colonial high moral values started with the arrival of the first white missionaries in West Africa. What the natives called “NSO-ANI” was re-branded FORGIVEABLE SINS and so watered down the sanctity of religious values in South-East, Nigeria  a.k.a. Biafra.

Its partner, WESTERN EDUCATION neatly completed the ‘coup de grace’ as the foreign concepts and social values of the colonialists destroyed the social ethics of the natives and rendered our pristine mores and norms ineffective.

In some communities; “aping the white man’s dress code and mannerisms became fashionable and ignoring the customs and traditions of the community was seen as the criterion of being EDUCATED and MORE CIVILISED than the illiterate folks in our villages who religiously obeyed the traditional mores and norms!
---DR JIDEOFO KENECHUKWU DANMBAEZUE, @ 30/06/2013 04:14:32 HRS GMT.

HERE IS THE MAIN TEXT BOOK FOR ALL OUR PROGRAMME DIRECTORS &TRAINEE COUNSELLORS

 

THE THREE MAIN AUTHORS / RESEARCHERS OF

PSYCHOMETRIC FAMILY COUNSELLING

ARE

·       Dr Jideofo Kenechukwu Danmbaezue

·       Mrs. Alice Nwakego Chineme Mbaezue

·       Sir Andrew Okoliukwu Okeukwu

And it is an original 25-year research work done by

HAPPY FAMILY NETWORK INTERNATIONAL

THE FAMILY WELFARE DIVISION OF

KENEZ INTERNATIONAL HUMANITARIAN ORGANISATIONS LINKAGE

An inter-ethnic NGO for creating good neighbourhood parenting units in urban cities for the development of healthy, successful and happy families in all countries of the world.

DECLINE IN SOCIAL ETHICS IS THE CRUX OF MORAL DEPRAVITY WHICH YOU MUST TACKLE HEAD-ON TO CHANGE THE STATUS QUO

Double-faced Christians and Muslims now abound everywhere; they worship Satan at night and come to church/mosque on Fridays/Sundays! This lifestyle has eroded the credentials of our forebears! There is now, an urgent need to redeem our children from these nefarious practices! We must revert to the legacies of our renowned grandfathers, improve on it and bequeath the next generation a better religious legacy than we had! If you are concerned that our children need fresh religious air that suits this global village and that posterity deserves a better lifestyle devoid of wearing masks of deceit, pretences, subterfuges, ‘holier-than-thou’ attitudes, then join us in the sanitation exercise. Your offspring will remain forever grateful that a select group of enlightened ‘Homo sapiens sapientis’ took the bull by the horns to avert the perilous moral decadence that is steadily turning all of us into unabashed hypocrites, unrepentant fanatics and deluded mystics. Our adolescents are the worst hit. You are welcome!

https://plus.google.com/100752842609304318747/videos/p/pub?pid=6134813415295938914&oid=100752842609304318747   Read the two commentaries very well.

THE PROGRAMMES DIVISION OF NTA ENUGU NETWORK OUR CENTRE AIDED BY DR J. K. DANMBAEZUE AND HIS TEN MAN FAMILY COUNSELLING TEAM WILL PARTNER WITH YOU

LECTURE ONE

Intro: MOST HUMANS GET MARRIAGE WRONG BY PRESUMPTION

RELEVANCE OF IGBA NKWU IN IGBO LAND

Its communal sacredness, religious meaning and sociological importance

“Igba Nkwu”, which literally connotes ‘the surplus provision of palm wine’ has both a religious and a legal denotation among the Igbo people of Biafra.  “Igba Nkwu” is a communal rite of passage that confers marital vows and legal rights to a couple. It is a sacred celebration of the union of two kindreds by the marriage of their daughter to a new son-in-law. It is a religious ceremony whereby the father of the bride performs a priestly function of publicly blessing his new son-in-law and daughter by pouring libations to his ancestors for the success of having given birth to and nurtured a fully grown woman. He prays for fruitfulness of the womb, proper performance of wifely duties to her husband and success in a happy marriage.  It is a sociological landmark that a bona-fide daughter of the community has successfully passed through all the developmental stages of adolescence and is today graduating from “whose daughter is she?”  to “whose wife is she?” Finally, it is a feast wherein the groom sumptuously entertains members of his bride’s kindred with tasty wine in appreciation of successfully training his wife! These are only some of the socio-psycho-religious meanings of “Igba Nkwu” in Igbo land as percieved by a son-of-the soil with western education. The sages of each locality will surely provide more metaphysical interpretations! --- Danmbaezue J. K.(1981- 2011)

LECTURE TWO

Prelim Pages; MANY PARENTS DO NOT GROOM THEIR OFFSPRING

THE ROLES AND DUTIES OF RESPONSIBLE PARENTHOOD.

Many parents are ill-prepared to groom their offspring on the roles and duties of responsible parenthood. They were not tutored on how best to rear the fruits of love-making. Therefore, they rear another generation of ill-equipped fathers and mothers. Whereas reproductive skills are innate in Homo sapiens, proper attitudes towards the basics of family engineering are not.  One does not go to school to study how to fall in and out of love.  One does not learn how to copulate.  However, one must imbibe the right perceptions of the objectives of family institution to ensure a healthy, successful and happy married life! Unprepared and inexperienced, they dabble in and out as often as the laws allow them to! To stem the tide, parents, pastors and counsellors need to educate the youth if we hope to reverse the trend of increases in divorce rate globally. What then, are the remote and immediate causes of divorces? They are: social prejudices inculcated in the child through wrong child-rearing customs; emotional immaturity caused by incomplete resolution of the developmental tasks of adolescenc; warped attitudes or negative perceptions picked from print and electronic media; and finally, myopic expectations from the marriage institution that eventually lead to infidelity or adultery. ----- From THE PREFACE OF HAFANI TEXTBOOK

LECTURE THREE

WHAT IS A FAMILY IN IGBO LAND?

THE BASIC QUALIFICATIONS OF A HUSBAND a.k.a DIBIA-ULO

The answer is simple. “Ezi-na-ulo”, is what the Igbo call it. Literally, it simply means “members of a compound and a house”. Therefore, a family comprises those members who share their lives together within a household located in a compound.  Naturally, there is a father plus a mother of the home and a compound in which they live in and happily interact. The father is the king of his domain. He has married a wife or wives and has subsequently produced children. He takes responsibility for all their needs:

• Shelter, Food and Clothing
• Hospital Bills and School Fees
• Defence and Transport
• Loans and Investment

In short, our people are right by calling him “DIBIA-ULO” - the doctor who diagnoses and treats all the problems in his house. To be a ‘dibia’- implies a protracted training as apprentice, internship and housemanship before freedom to start one’s own medical practice. A teenager or an adolescent who has not endured the long tutelage under his father can never be a good dibia-ulo.

TO BE A DIBIA-ULO IN A TRADITIONAL IGBO SETTING COMPRISES:

A.  A responsible man that builds a home,

B.  At least a man and a woman with their children,

C.  The wife or wives are dependent on him,

D.  He is the mechanic, the plumber and doctor of the family,

E.  He shoulders the good, the bad and the ugly in his home,

F.  His failure to take good care of the wife spells divorce and a broken home.

In Igbo land, marriage is a village affair or in the least, a kindred affair, whereby it is not only the bridegroom that is the husband of the new bride but all his kinsmen and women. The woman is called: ‘our wife’ by the people. Therefore to marry in our culture entails pre-marital investigations or research into the family backgrounds of both bride and groom. This is the unique aspect of traditional marriage that benefits the couple. It is the most advantageous aspect of Igbo wisdom. Whereas Western societies resort to professional marriage counsellors and family therapists, we have this pre-marital counselling done for the couple before their formal wedding. It has so many advantages:

1. It excludes genetic diseases if properly conducted,
2. It pre-empts anti-social behavioural traits in the offspring,
3. It protects most of the community’s religious taboos,
4. It enforces traditional norms and mores,
5. It protects the newly married bride from inordinate jealousies, and finally
6. It publicises that one is no more a bachelor or a spinster.

In our culture, the first is the most important parameter for the marriage to get the blessings of parents and members of the African extended family system. One really wonders how our ancestors were able to fathom the need for this PRE-MARITAL GENETICAL COUNSELLING long before the arrival of the first white man!

LECTURE FOUR

CALL FOR FOUNDATION MEMBERS OF FAMILY LIFE COLLEGE

Every individual nature is part of the cosmos. To live virtuously means to live in accord with one's nature, to live according to the natural and eternal laws the designer of the universe intended by employing truth and right reason in all we do. Because passion and emotion are considered irrational movements of the soul, the wise individual seeks to eradicate the passions and consciously embrace the rational life. “True law is right reason in agreement with Nature; it is of universal application, unchanging and everlasting; it summons to duty by its commands and averts from wrongdoing by its prohibitions. . . . There will not be different laws at different countries or communities, or different laws now and in the future, but one eternal and unchangeable law will be valid for all nations and for all times.” The laws governing all living things; birth, growth, respiration, movement, nutrition, excretion, reproduction and finally death hold sway in every place on planet earth under normal temperature and pressure. Humans have the same anatomy and physiology despite our differing languages, child-rearing practices, skin colour, racial differences and social statuses. We are the offspring of the Almighty Creator of the macrocosms and microcosms we share. Our survival in our variety of physical environment follows the same laws. No man is an island. We need each other!

We all contend that natural laws are sacrosanct for they were made by the Almighty Architect and Engineer who created every being on planet; EARTH. They are divine and eternal; because they are universal and are no respecters of places and times of birth, parentage, race, educational level or religion! There are so many self-evident examples; the movement of the sun and moon regulate the hours of day, night, weeks, months and years; so also do gravity, temperature, pressure, emotion, motivation, conception, pregnancy, labour and birth regulate family life. If anyone disagrees, let him provide evidence to the contrary. The founders of FAMILY LIFE COLLEGE, therefore, posit that human slavery, in whatever form it is used to deny any Homo sapiens and others their fundamental human rights, was/is and will forever remain illegal! Caste systems must be abrogated in civil and religious circles all over the world to arrive at;

ONE ALMIGHTY CREATOR, ONE CREATED UNIVERSE, ONE HUMAN FAMILY, ONE GLOBAL FAITH   AND   ONE   MODE   OF   WORSHIP; IS OUR CREED, SERVICE TO HUMANITY INTERNATIONALLY, IS THE LIFESTYLE OF ALL MEMBERS, LOYALTY TO THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH, IN EVERY THOUGHT, WORD OR DEED IS OUR ETHICS  & OBEDIENCE TO NATURAL & ETERNAL LAWS OF THE CREATOR, IS OUR GOSPEL.

LECTURE FIVE

POLYGAMY IS NATURAL, MONOGAMY MUST BE LEARNT

Adultery and divorce were/are new lexicons in pre-literate Igbo communities. Let us not deceive ourselves by acclaiming that Monogamy as legislated by foreign religious bodies is natural. The easy and acceptable number of wives a traditional husband had/have in most societies all over the globe is only determined by his industry backed by his ability to feed and cater for every member of his househeld effectively and efficiently. There was no need for a man to be unfaithful to his wife or wives as all it would cost was working harder to earn the respect of his large family. Today, the imported monogamy that is rarely kept has brought in so many scandals and sinful lifestyles that corrupt our youth. This Family Counselling Organisation does not condemn Polygamy nor does it praise Monogamy. If you are a millionaire and can marry many ladies, go ahead! If the cap fits; wear it; but ensure the health, succes and happiness of all! Let us see what a foreign lady found out about INFIDELITY and ADULTERY!

RESEARCH BY A WOMAN ON INFIDELITY

Downloaded from the Internet in 2009 for the book: PSYCHOMETRIC FAMILY COUNSELLING

      The only place where you'll find out the REAL reason women are cheating as much as men

MICHELLE LANGLEY

"After researching women's sexuality for more than ten years, I can honestly say that most of our societal beliefs about females are grossly distorted and many are completely erroneous."  ---------

…………………….says Michelle Langley, Author of Women's Infidelity

WOMEN'S RELATIONSHIPS TODAY FOLLOW A PREDICTABLE PATTERN:

• They push men for commitment
• They get what they want
• They lose interest in sex
• They become attracted to someone else
• They start cheating
• They become angry and resentful
• They begin telling their partners that they need time apart
• They blame their partners for their behaviour...and eventually, after making themselves and everyone around them miserable for an indefinite, but usually, long period of time, they end their relationships or marriages.

   

THE YOUNG SHALL GROW IS ETERNALLY THE DEFINITE TRUTH OF OUR COUNSELLIG, SO WE MUST PREPARE THEM TO PLAY THE RIGHT ROLES OF WOMANHOOD EARLY IN LIFE

Also visit our website @:  www.happyfamilynetwork.hpage.com

ONLINE FAMILY COUNSELLING COLLEGE

On AIR and On LINE Tutorials for Mature Students

PREAMBLE:

Thanks to the inventors of Computers and the Internet, ICT can now be used to train a variety of professionals right there in the comfort of their homes for a minimal fee that can be paid to every broadcasting station on line. All we need do is draw up an attractive time table for would-be FAMILY COUNSELLORS who have the interest to guide their children and others in making the best decisions on marriage and family life! They can subscribe for ON AIR tutorials of three hours a week spread out to cater for the convenience of both their teachers and staff of NTA.

GENERAL INTRODUCTION:

Many parents are ill-prepared to groom their offspring on the roles and duties of responsible parenthood. They were not tutored on how best to rear the fruits of love-making. Therefore, they rear another generation of ill-equipped fathers and mothers. Whereas reproductive skills are innate in Homo sapiens, proper attitudes towards the basics of family engineering are not. 

One does not go to school to study how to fall in and out of love. One does not learn how to copulate. However, one must imbibe the right perceptions of the objectives of the family institution to ensure a healthy, successful and happy married life! These facts bring to our consciousness the remote causes of the unhappy marriages, high rates of divorces and separations globally.

In our traditional societies in which the African extended family system remains the basic unit, marriages are usually arranged by elders in each concerned family unit. The assumption is that love between the partners comes after marriage and more thought is given to the socioeconomic advantages accruing to the larger family from the marriage than romantic love.
By contrast, in modern societies that have accepted western lifestyles where Christianity and nuclear family predominates, educated young adults now opt to choose their own mates. It is assumed that love determines proper marriage, and less thought is normally given to the socioeconomic aspects of the match. However, this has increased divorce rates due to misconceptions of the traditional values attached to the pre-literate marriage customs that ensured the longevity of marriages.

In today’s world, adolescents rarely know what marriage is all about before venturing into it. Unprepared and inexperienced, they dabble in and out as often as the laws allow them to! To stem the tide, parents, pastors and counsellors need to re-educate the youth if we hope to reverse the trend of increases in divorce rate globally. What then, are the remote and immediate causes of divorces?

They are:

·       Social prejudices inculcated in the child through wrong child-rearing customs;

·       Emotional immaturity caused by incomplete resolution of the developmental tasks of adolescence;

·       Warped attitudes or negative perceptions picked from print and electronic media; and finally,

·       Myopic expectations from the marriage institution that eventually lead to infidelity or adultery.

Above paragraphs are unedited excerpts from the current encyclopaedic textbook on marriage; “PSYCHOMETRIC FAMILY COUNSELLING”;    …… Danmbaezue et al.(2007)

Experts in both guidance counselling, family life education and family therapy will be sourced by the management of NTA ENUGU STATE assisted by bona-fide members of HAPPY FAMILY NETWORK INTERNATIONAL, (abbrev. HAFANI) a CBO made up of the professionals in medicine, psychology, sociology, religion and other relevant fields of the humanities.

The effective use of a variety of counselling/therapeutic methods with the relevant standardised psychological tests as described in the manuals of the six developed by the interdisciplinary therapeutic consortium of HAFANI demands competency in non-parametric statistics. This involves accurate procedures regarding their administration, scoring, evaluation, analysis and application in existential/client-centred therapeutics dealing with individuals or groups.

This is where summer holiday-camps organised by officials will be required to train the fee-paying beneficiaries of the programme. The income is dependent on the ingenuity, efficient and effective presentations ON AIR by staff of the broadcasting house! The top management of NTA will take care of this adequately and control the funds.

METHODOLOGY:

1.    ON THE AIR tutorial lectures will be handled by seasoned HAFANI social scientists and respected elderly parents picked by the staff of NTA.

2.    Dialogue sessions whereby a select group of adolescents and prospective couples will interact LIVE with the tutors will be aired on a weekly basis.

3.    Soap operas or Drama sketches can be shown on weekends to provide would be participants the benefits of the NTA family counselling programme.

4.    Use of micro-diagnostic tests in skilled counselling and therapeutic settings will be taught ON AIR and the practical reserved for NYA summer camps.

5.    Practical sessions will be on pay-and-participate basis during the summer holiday periods where counselees meet with the counsellors.

RESOURCE BOOKS:

There are a number of books already written on the subject that are on the Internet, as well as those by Nigerian professionals in areas of their specialisation in Family Life Sciences. These will be vetted by the Senior Management of NTA. Any well- informed father or mother practising marriage and family life successfully is welcome to participate in this people-oriented programme designed for our youths!

TUITION FEES/MODALITIES OF PAYMENT:

This is primarily the administrative duty of the Top Management Executives of the media house who can assess and evaluate what is ideal to pay for running costs, remunerations to invited tutorial staff and the hosting of the annual holidays camp for practicum.

This write-up definitely is only a proposal for helmsmen at the TV subunit of NTA. You are free to re-write and format it to meet the requirements of your employers, but be aware that unless the income this FAMILY COUNSELLING TUTORIAL generates is adequate and profitable, top managers might cancel it.

On the other hand, if you organise this innovative programme successfully, besides raking in millions in terms of quarterly turnover for your employers, you would have made history. All tertiary institutions will come running to NTA to learn how you pulled off this epoch-making educational wonder. It is definitely ingenious! Keep the flag flying high

……………………………………………………………………………......................…………..

Dr Jideofo Kenechukwu Danmbaezue, D.Sc.

Professor of Psychometrics/Family Therapy

Email: saintkenez@yahoo.co.uk Website: www.happyfamilynetwork.hpage.com

Representatives of FOUNDERS, SECRETARIES & CO-ORDINATORS

THIS ORIGINAL SCRIPT IS AS OLD AS SIX YEARS BUT NEGLECTED BY FOLLOWING MANAGERS

ESBS FAMILY COUNSELLING COLLEGE

On AIR and On LINE Tutorials for Mature Students

PREAMBLE:

Thanks to the inventors of Computers and the Internet, ICT can now be used to train a variety of professionals right there in the comfort of their homes for a minimal fee that can be paid to every broadcasting station on line. All we need do is draw up an attractive time table for would-be FAMILY COUNSELLORS who have the interest to guide their children and others in making the best decisions on marriage and family life! They can subscribe for ON AIR tutorials of three hours a week spread out to cater for the convenience of both their teachers and staff of ESBS.

GENERAL INTRODUCTION:

Many parents are ill-prepared to groom their offspring on the roles and duties of responsible parenthood. They were not tutored on how best to rear the fruits of love-making. Therefore, they rear another generation of ill-equipped fathers and mothers. Whereas reproductive skills are innate in Homo sapiens, proper attitudes towards the basics of family engineering are not. 

One does not go to school to study how to fall in and out of love. One does not learn how to copulate. However, one must imbibe the right perceptions of the objectives of the family institution to ensure a healthy, successful and happy married life! These facts bring to our consciousness the remote causes of the unhappy marriages, high rates of divorces and separations globally.

In our traditional societies in which the African extended family system remains the basic unit, marriages are usually arranged by elders in each concerned family unit. The assumption is that love between the partners comes after marriage and more thought is given to the socioeconomic advantages accruing to the larger family from the marriage than romantic love.
By contrast, in modern societies that have accepted western lifestyles where Christianity and nuclear family predominates, educated young adults now opt to choose their own mates. It is assumed that love determines proper marriage, and less thought is normally given to the socioeconomic aspects of the match. However, this has increased divorce rates due to misconceptions of the traditional values attached to the pre-literate marriage customs that ensured the longevity of marriages.

In today’s world, adolescents rarely know what marriage is all about before venturing into it. Unprepared and inexperienced, they dabble in and out as often as the laws allow them to! To stem the tide, parents, pastors and counsellors need to re-educate the youth if we hope to reverse the trend of increases in divorce rate globally. What then, are the remote and immediate causes of divorces?

They are:

·        Social prejudices inculcated in the child through wrong child-rearing customs;

·        Emotional immaturity caused by incomplete resolution of the developmental tasks of adolescence;

·        Warped attitudes or negative perceptions picked from print and electronic media; and finally,

·        Myopic expectations from the marriage institution that eventually lead to infidelity or adultery.

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Above paragraphs are unedited excerpts from the current encyclopaedic textbook on marriage; “PSYCHOMETRIC FAMILY COUNSELLING”; Danmbaezue et al.(2007)

Experts in both guidance counselling, family life education and family therapy will be sourced by the management of ENUGU STATE BROADCASTING SERVICE, (abbrev. ESBS) assisted by bona-fide members of HAPPY FAMILY NETWORK INTERNATIONAL, (abbrev. HAFANI) a CBO made up of the professionals in medicine, psychology, sociology, religion and other relevant fields of the humanities.

The effective use of a variety of counselling/therapeutic methods with the relevant standardised psychological tests as described in the manuals of the six developed by the interdisciplinary therapeutic consortium of HAFANI demands competency in non-parametric statistics. This involves accurate procedures regarding their administration, scoring, evaluation, analysis and application in existential/client-centred therapeutics dealing with individuals or groups.

This is where summer holiday-camps organised by ESBS/HAFANI officials will be required to train the fee-paying beneficiaries of the programme. The income is dependent on the ingenuity, efficient and effective presentations ON AIR by staff of the broadcasting house! The top management of ESBS will take care of this adequately and control the funds.

METHODOLOGY:

1.  ON THE AIR tutorial lectures will be handled by seasoned HAFANI social scientists and respected elderly parents picked by the staff of ESBS.

2.  Dialogue sessions whereby a select group of adolescents and prospective couples will interact LIVE with the tutors will be aired on a weekly basis.

3.  Soap operas or Drama sketches can be shown on weekends to provide would be participants the benefits of the ESBS family counselling programme.

4.  Use of micro-diagnostic tests in skilled counselling and therapeutic settings will be taught ON AIR and the practical reserved for ESBS summer camps.

5.  Practical sessions will be on pay-and-participate basis during the summer holiday periods where counselees meet with the counsellors.

RESOURCE BOOKS:

There are a number of books already written on the subject that are on the Internet, as well as those by Nigerian professionals in areas of their specialisation in Family Life Sciences. These will be vetted by the Senior Management of ESBS. Any well- informed father or mother practising marriage and family life successfully is welcome to participate in this people-oriented programme designed for our youths!

TUITION FEES/MODALITIES OF PAYMENT:

This is primarily the administrative duty of the Top Management Executives of the media house who can assess and evaluate what is ideal to pay for running costs, remunerations to invited tutorial staff and the hosting of the annual holidays camp for practicum.

This write-up definitely is only a proposal for helmsmen at the TV subunit of ESBS. You are free to re-write and format it to meet the requirements of your employers, but be aware that unless the income this FAMILY COUNSELLING TUTORIAL generates is adequate and profitable, top managers might cancel it.

On the other hand, if you organise this innovative programme successfully, besides raking in millions in terms of quarterly turnover for your employers, you would have made history. All tertiary institutions will come running to ESBS to learn how you pulled off this epoch-making educational wonder. It is definitely ingenious!

Keep the flag flying high forESBS, the only truly State Government Television.

 

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Dr Jideofo Kenechukwu Danmbaezue, D.Sc

Professor of Psychometrics/Family Therapy

CONSULTANT CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST &

EXISTENTIAL FAMILY THERAPIST

Tel: 0803-9097614 or 0805-1764999 @ 13:58:17HRS GMT 03/10/2011)

Email: saintkenez@yahoo.co.uk Website: www.happyfamilynetwork.hpage.com

 ESBS FAMILY COUNSELLING PROGRAMME

SPONSORSHIP AND MARKETING RIGHTS FOR COMPANIES

The Marketing Manager,

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Sir,

YOU CAN MARKET YOUR PRODUCTS AND SERVICES ON AIR OR ON LINE

You can partner with us and market your super friendly products on both our air waves and television broadcasts as we run the weekly ESBS family counselling lectures, on line interactive sessions and summer/holiday camp programmes.

Review the attached quarterly brochure in detail and decide how many times you want to use our air time to get more customers patronise you. It is a fabulous offer for your enterprising organisation that is people-friendly. That is why we are calling you to exploit the abundant opportunities it offers to millions of Nigerians.

There is the possibility of restricting our ON AIR  students to only phonecalls made with your lines during our interactive lecture series. There is also another opening; asking them to only use your products and services for all their e-mails to us.

The choice is yours also to decorate a 50 x 100 metre ‘love-garden’ space, with your billboard advertorials, which we will use weekly for various grades of couples to spend quality time as part of our Group Therapeutic Sessions. It provides them the opportunity to sort out their psychosocial marital relationships and other child-rearing challenges as they interact with partners having similar social problems.

We will organise monthly all-night out party sessions where you can increase sales turnover by awarding prizes for couples that patronise/use your services the most:

1.  ENGAGED COUPLES NIGHT

2.  BRONZE JUBILEE COUPLES NIGHT

3.  SILVER JUBILEE COUPLES NIGHT

4.  GOLDEN JUBILEE COUPLES NIGHT

5.  ANNUAL VALENTINE/VALENTINOS NIGHT

You can opt to sponsor annually or quarterly at the following moderate fees:

·        Annually i.e 4 quarters, 3 months x 4, @  N3.5 million only

·        Quarterly i.e 3 months you choose in a year @ N1.5 million.

Please contact our Directors of Programmes, Finance or Marketing for details.

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Mr. Chinwe Onuorah

Managing Director, ESBS TV-RADIO, Enugu.

NOW YOU WILL REALISE THAT GOD DELAYED ITS IMPLEMENTATION TILL A LADY GOVERNOR ASCENDS THIS SEAT YOU ARE NOW ON

This is your baby. You can invite your friends of same disposition to form the CBO NGO to benefit the youth. August Meetings now has a graded lecture series. We shall also begin Counselling Centres at each LGA. This is a PROJECT that will make history. This is a legacy you will leave as your footprints on the sands of time.

Signed ............................................................................................

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HAPPY FAMILY NETWORK INTERNATIONAL OFFICERS